31. “She was becoming herself and daily casting aside that fictitious self which we assume like a garment with which to appear before the world.”
—Kate Chopin, “The Awakening”
I recently found a beautiful article called “51 of the Most Beautiful Sentences in Literature” and, in addition to giving me a new reading list, there were some quotes that stayed with me. Number 31 is one of them.
Theologians talk about it, self-help books talk about, and countless blog posts talk about it, so I may be just adding to the noise…But I digress. The personal search to find our “true self” is one that should be an ongoing and difficult yet beautiful process of discovery and awakening. It doesn’t happen gracefully, and I think we don’t often notice it. Yet every time we “cast aside that fictitious self,” we become one step closer to becoming (and accepting) the “Me” deep inside.
I feel like so many people who are discouraged at their lack of self-growth fail to recognize that in every situation that you make a decision which your heart guides you to, you grow into yourself just a little bit more. They may be baby steps, but they count. We shouldn’t undermine the progress we make to becoming a better version of ourselves, especially because we are generally our own toughest critics.
Be you. Make decisions which make you happy. And be a person that you would want to spend time with. Life is too precious to spend time acting like someone you’re not, and people will respect you way more for being who you are than who you think they want you to be.
I pray that as the New Year comes and all kinds of resolutions begin flying around our virtual web of social interaction, we remember that the most important “profile” is the one we have of our real selves, that no amount of “likes” defines our worth, and every now and again, we need to remember to just give ourselves a break. You’re doing just fine. 🙂